Unpacking Mother-Daughter Relationships ft. Hilary Truong

Join me in talking with Hilary Truong, founder of Hilary Mae and Co! We have an AMAZING conversation about the mother-daughter relationship. How and why this critical relationship can get so sticky, what we can do about it, and how society-at-large shapes the mother-daughter relationship. All women everywhere - listen 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 this 👏🏼 episode 👏🏼 For the love of all things holy. Trust me 💜

MEET HILARY TRUONG ~

Hilary Truong is a mother-daughter relationship expert and former therapist for teen girls and a leading voice on keeping mothers and daughters in relationship through the teen years. She is on a mission to rewrite the narrative for mothers and teen daughters and shares her passion by speaking at schools and associations for girls and women, coaching mothers of girls and hosting immersive travel experiences for mothers and daughters.

CONNECT WITH HILARY TRUONG

On the web: www.hilarymae.com

On Instagram: @hilarymaeco

On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/hilarymaeco

On the Facebooks: https://www.facebook.com/hilarymaeco

🫧 CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT HILARY’S FREE WORKSHOP SERIES 🫧

FAVORITE MOMENTS FROM THIS EPISODE ~

some of my favorite lines of conversation that came up in this episode:

  • The incredible impact of watching our mothers model behavior patterns

  • Breaking the ‘am I expecting too much of men?’ thought pattern

  • Slowly breaking old patterns across generations

  • Letting go of solving other peoples’ problems so we can solve the big problems that give our own lives meaning

  • Mothers meeting their own emotional needs vs. projecting them onto the daughter

  • Embracing the natural course of the mother-daughter relationship

  • Honoring the unfulfilled dreams of our grandmothers 💜

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS SHOW ~

THE WORKS OF ROSJKE HASSELDINE

DOWN GIRL BY KATE MANN

DETAILED EPISODE BREAKDOWN ~

0:00 - 10:00 ish:

  • Meet Hilary Truong! and a quick overview of today’s episode 💜

  • When Hilary first realized the mother-daughter relationship needed more investigation…

  • Why are the teen years so critical? What’s so unique about them?

  • The importance of moms feeling supported so they can be truly supportive for their daughters

  • Moms and daughters seeing each other through softer eyes 🌈

10 - 20:00 ish:

  • The ‘female experience’ as a bond between mother + daughter

  • How living inside the patriarchy sets this relationship up for conflict

  • The culture of ‘female service’ and expectations placed on women to serve and give

  • Women’s right to express our needs and ask for what we need

  • The incredible impact of watching our mothers model behavior patterns

  • Men learning to take on their share of the emotional labor

  • The ‘am I expecting too much of men?’ thinking pattern

20 - 30:00 ish:

  • Reflecting on the growing appreciation of emotional labor with each generation

  • Changing the patterns we pass on through family

  • Slowly breaking old patterns across generations

  • Learning about our mother lines 💜 Our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers

  • The sacrifice that’s made by our female predecessors

  • Letting go of solving other peoples’ problems so we can solve the big problems that give our own lives meaning

  • What happens when a mom’s emotional needs aren’t met

30 - 40:00 ish:

  • Mothers meeting their own emotional needs vs. projecting them onto the daughter

  • Letting go of the expectations that mothers + daughters should be best friends

  • Embracing the natural course of the mother-daughter relationship

  • The importance of finding satisfaction outside of being a mother

  • Wrangling with cultural echos from the 50’s about what it means to be a woman

  • Human Giver Syndrome

  • Honoring the unfulfilled dreams of our grandmothers 💜

40 - 50:00 ish:

  • Hilary’s personal definition of what it means to her to be a mother

  • Letting motherhood be messy, real and honest

THANKS FOR LISTENING!

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Lots of love,

Caroline

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